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How to find, buy and use self-development programs

With the millions of programs on the internet, the challenge isn't to find programs but to filter all the crap and discover the rare ones that are pure gold.

Finding

The trick to doing this is to find one or two great teachers whose advice you trust. It won't take long before you discover such a teacher recommending other products that catch your interest, and from there you can build a web of trust, occasionally spreading into new areas and once you're there quickly linking you to many good sources in such an area. Be aware that part of the motivation for such recommendations is typically affiliate marketing - rewards for all recommendations that lead to new happy customers. This is a mutually-beneficial deal for the teachers that also helps you spread your web of trust, just be aware that some of the teachers who are stuck within a single subject may occasionally lower their standards to make a bit of extra money, so you have to see whether their recommendations consistently deliver on their promises. This is where I hope you'll find my recommendations and personal experiences to be a major head start in your own journey.

Buying

Luckily, the risks of trying out most of this stuff are basically non-existent, because the return policies are wickedly good. You'll find that nearly every product I recommend comes with 60+ days of guaranteed satisfaction, during which you can get a full refund, no questions asked. Note that shipping costs and amazon purchases are exceptions to this.

Still, what this means is that if you are ever in doubt about the quality of a recommended product, the easiest solution is often to verify their return policy, buy the product and then just give it 60 days (or however long) to prove its worth, for it not to be refunded. It's ok to be ruthless with this - particularly as you become more informed within a topic: As I educated myself on exercise and nutrition, the first couple of books were extremely enlightening, then as I bought more only about half and eventually about a quarter proved to have enough new and useful information for me to not refund them. I say this even though I only get paid for bringing happy customers who become satisfied with the products and don't claim a refund. It's simply in everyone's interest that the good products and recommendations win out, and that you know that you can safely err on the side of giving new products a chance.

With some products, you may also find that you have the opportunity to borrow them from friends or find illegal sources. My personal opinion is that respecting rules is a poor substitute for respecting people: When I'm intimidated by a large shipping cost (living outside the US), it is at the end of the day in the author's interest that I don't let that deter me from previewing the program and paying if it proves worthwhile. While I will likewise advise you to always respect the author over the rules, it is also essential for your own gain that you still go at this journey with the mindset that your own development is worth investing in, when you do find something worthwhile.

Using

The basic prerequisite for everything I share is of course that you must be willing to change. This does not have to be an intimidating prospect, but rather just a journey to explore new areas and talents within yourself, trying them on and keeping anything that feels better than where you came from.

Beyond that, just allow yourself to play around with things and not be too formal or perfectionist about it. You can always read or listen to a program again: No matter how great a program is, its okay to breeze through it as an audiobook with occasional multi-tasking/distractions or skim the parts you find most engaging - the important part is just that you find the way that you enjoy throwing yourself at the learning process with passion and enthusiasm. By all means, feel free to go through Napoleon Hill's The Laws of Success (.uk / .ca) meticulously, taking on every mental assignment he offers the reader - but if that winds up being a slow process to the extent that you become less passionate about it, consider that you might benefit more from just breezing through the entire program for an overview, stopping to consider only the most inspiring questions or just taking a minute on each to reflect on the general direction of your response, and then going back to enjoy the lessons again a year or two later.

Likewise, realize that for anything related to practical skills (e.g. hypnosis, physical exercise and manifesting social changes) you can gain a lot from theoretical knowledge, but you will also have to launch yourself at the practical aspect eventually. The greatest mistake you can make in learning any topic is being afraid to fail a couple of times and being learning from it. Even as you proceed to the highest tiers of mastery, you will always be holding back unless you continually allow yourself to experiment, daring to fail, and drawing both lessons and fun experiences from it.

Newsletters

Many of the teachers I recommend offer useful newsletters, that give you regular updates about a topic, exploring it further and recommending related products. I've enjoyed such newsletters immensely when exploring new topics, and I recommend you do the same - just don't feel obliged to keep with them forever. All of the topics you encounter here will be steps on a journey, and a common thread for me has been that I've enjoyed most good newsletters for a year or two before I started finding that they were becoming less relevant to me and I moved on to other priorities.


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